Emotional Self-Regulation
And Social Intelligence
Do you often get overwhelmed ?
Does it take you a long time to calm yourself down and return to baseline ?
Do you have difficulty feeling and expressing your emotions and coping with stress ?
You're not alone !
Many of us struggle with similar difficulties with our emotions
What's going on ?
What's happening inside my body, heart, soul and mind ?
Clenched muscles, chronic fatigue, and stiff awkward gait...
Heart pounding, constricted breathing, feeling stressed...
Difficulty talking to people and interacting or connecting...
Getting easily confused and flustered in social situations...
In ‘It’s Not Your Fault:’ Patricia Romano McGraw wrote: “A baby is not born with the ability to comfort and soothe himself. His brain does not yet have the neural networks to do this. So, when baby gets upset, he needs you to comfort him so that he literally feels your comfort and “borrows” it to meet his own needs at the time. He feels what you feel, and in feeling it, his brain “grows around” this experience of comfort, building the comfort pathways in his little brain… Repetitive, comforting, attuned relationship creates healthy, more-or-less permanent neural patterning… chronic, severe misattunement can create problems that may last a lifetime.”
Explode vs Implode
What makes us tick and tock and sometimes go BOOM !?!
As kids we watched the grown-ups around us struggling to express their feelings. We observed adults, especially our parents, interacting with each other and often it was pleasant, even fun, but when there was a misunderstanding, conflict or stress, it was rare to see grown-ups communicate fairly about their upset and express their emotions effectively to resolve interpersonal issues/conflict. Typically one vents their upset at the expense of the other, sometimes in a grown-up tantrum or EXplosion while the other silently suppresses and internalizes that energy, entrains and embeds it (eventually leading to an [unseen] implosion).
We are constantly receiving our present moment experience through these internal representations of the past. These mental models or schemas map the present onto the past, determining how much of a particular emotion we feel, how long the emotion lasts and to what extent it affects our thinking and choosing, responding and relating… Something minor happens but you over-react and say terrible things to someone you love; or else you clam up and withdraw and can’t respond; or you dissociate and zone out. Why does this happen?
Broken Child
Thought I wasn't good enough, so I kept it all inside...
can i change ?
Is there hope for me ? Can this thing be healed ?
If it took root early in your childhood it will be very difficult to change later in life. Just recognizing it is hard enough, changing these schemas may feel like an impossible challenge.
It’s not easy but anyone can change an emotional schema at any time in their life, with a little support and guidance, and a lot of determination and perseverance to:
Feel your way back into your body and learn to relax...
Allowing and expressing your emotions, regulating stress...
Having healing relationships and developing social skills...
Understanding the problem and developing better options...
You’ll never really know what it’s like unless you’ve actually been there yourself. Before you can guide and assist someone else in their healing process you need to have made some genuine real lasting progress with this same problem. Many of these motivational coaches and even psychologists who were raised to have high self-esteem and confidence, won’t really know what it takes to develop these out of nothing, from scratch.
I’ve struggled with crippling social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder for much of my life. I don’t really remember much of my childhood but social anxiety has been part of my operating system from as far back as I can remember till quite recently. It’s only during the last five years, after I started applying what I learned from psychology, that I started to make genuine progress. But I still have a long way to go.
What's on the other side ?
If you're ready to put in the work you will eventually:
begin to feel more calm and relaxed...
become more secure and confident...
enjoy socializing and meeting people...
speak your truth, stand up for yourself...
be more authentic... more YOU !
Healing Process
Are you ready to begin the healing adventure ?
The COURSE
Here's what you'll be getting in the course
- 8 Video modules
- 1 Presentation covering the theory
- 1 Workbook (+ audiobook version)
- 8 Practical Applications
- 2 Guided Meditations + 2 Audio modules
- 1 Webinar + 2 Individual sessions
- Whatsapp/email support
- Facebook study group
