Social Anxiety
a.k.a. Avoidant Personality Disorder
Are you afraid of people?
Do you habitually avoid social situations because they tend to be distressing and overwhelming?
Do you have difficulty speaking your mind and standing up for yourself?
You're not alone !
Around 15% of people find themselves in a similar situation
What Going on ?
Social anxiety is fear of being rejected and humiliated by people
Clenched tense muscles, chronic fatigue, and stiff awkward gait...
Heart pounding, shallow breathing, feeling stressed and nervous...
Difficulty talking to people, hard time connecting and trusting...
Flustered and overwhelmed by social situations... tongue-tied...
Anxiety is a normal, necessary emotion. We need it like we need each of our other emotions. It makes us prepare for that upcoming exam or avoid that dark alley, so we wouldn’t want to get rid of it, but, we wouldn’t want to be stuck inside it all the time either. For most people anxiety doesn’t last long, it’s just a temporary state that’s soon resolved. But for some of us anxiety takes hold and never lets go… a chronic, debilitating condition that affects us in many ways.
Do you struggle to have meaningful conversations with others? Do you get easily stressed, your heart pounding away inside its cage (hyperaroused)? Are you constantly scanning for danger and insults (hypervigilant)? Never really saying what’s on your mind (low self-esteem)? Are you missing out on opportunities because you can only imagine the worst (inhibitions)… Do you feel weird, ugly, awkward, pathetic (distorted self-image)?
Why is this happening ?
What caused me to become so afraid of people ?
What happened to me to make me feel so worthless and insignificant and unlovable?
Simply put, Social Anxiety (and every other emotional schema) comes from the way that people treated you during the first years of life – the parenting-attachment style formed with your primary caregivers. If they were supportive, responsive to your needs and appropriately disciplining, with enough affection and attention then you would feel safe and secure and freely express your emotions and easily cope with stressful situations.
If they were harsh and overly critical, rejecting and humiliating you a lot of the time, then you would have been afraid and ashamed a lot of the time, getting easily overwhelmed and not having any effective ways of coping. Basically, you had to bottle up or repress your emotions and hide your responses; vital aspects of your personality; who you really are. As a result you lost the capacity to feel and express your core emotions like anger, sadness, and joy, and instead you had to feel way too much of fear, anxiety, shame and guilt.
Broken Child
Thought I wasn't good enough, so I kept it all inside...
What can i do ?
Is there hope for me ? Can this thing be healed ?
If it took root early in your childhood it will be very difficult to change later in life. Just recognizing it is hard enough, changing these schemas may feel like an impossible challenge.
It’s not easy but anyone can change an emotional schema at any time in their life, with a little support and guidance, and a lot of determination and perseverance to:
Feel your way back into your body and learn how to calm down...
Allow and express your emotions, and learn how to handle and release stress...
Seek and sustain healing relationships and develop social skills...
Understand the problem so you can begin to creating better solutions...
Most people won’t get what it’s like unless they’ve actually been there themselves. Before you can guide and assist others in their healing process you need to have made some genuine real lasting progress with the very same problem. People who’ve always had high self-esteem and confidence, won’t really know what it takes to develop these traits out of nothing, from scratch.
I’ve struggled with crippling social anxiety for much of my life. Avoidance has been part of my operating system from as far back as I can remember. It’s only during the last five years, after I started applying what I learned from psychology, that I started to make some progress. I still have a long way to go, but I have learned some valuable lessons, stuff that I wish someone had shared with me when I was younger.
What's on the other side ?
If you're ready to put in the work you will eventually:
begin to feel more calm and relaxed...
become more secure and confident...
enjoy socializing and meeting people...
speak your truth, stand up for yourself...
be more authentic... more YOU !
Healing Process
Are you ready to begin the healing adventure ?
The Course
Here's what you'll be getting in the course
- 8 Video modules
- 1 Presentation covering the theory
- 1 Workbook (+ audiobook version)
- 8 Practical Applications
- 2 Guided Meditations + 2 Audio modules
- 1 Webinar + 2 Individual sessions
- Whatsapp/email support
- Facebook study group
